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Bullies

October 14, 2010 @ 7:27 PM 42 Comments      

Don’t you always hate it when you or the kids you see around you getting made fun of. I surely am sick of it! I have always been bullied. It is not a fun time. Trust me it is so not not fun having your heart hurt. There is lots of ways to help solve this problem once and for all. One reason is that if you see a kid getting bullied walk up to them and support them. A bully only wants to hurt one kid not a bunch of kids. Also if you are being if they see you are crying the will feel better and keep doing it more to you and lots of  children.  Schools around the world try to stop bulling but I personally think it just encourages them to do it more. When a place I saw had bulling a little they put up signs saying please don’t. Then in a couple weeks  lots more happened. If you are being bullied tell a teacher or adult what is happening. Bulling is not fun so, if you don’t want kids to be mean to you, you should not be mean to other kids.

42 Comments

  1. Mrs. Kolbert
    You make a very good point about bullies wanting to pick on one kid, not a bunch. You’re right, Lily. Most bullies are cowards and when faced with strong opposition, will usually back down or find another “victim.” Sounds like you speak from experience, which makes me sad, but your blogpost can help other students feel better about standing up to bullies as well. Great job, Lilly! Keep up the great work.
  2. Mrs. T
    Good advice Lily! Being mean to others is being a bully too!
  3. Charlie A. Roy
    The power of bystanders to stop bullying is one of the untapped strategies to stop bullying. A while back I worked as k-8 principal. We had a student who would bully others by calling an overweight female student not so nice names every time the teacher turned her back. I was able to work with her and her friends who overheard the bullying. We worked on a plan that the next time he called her names one student after the other would shout out Allen why did you just call Sarah that? Bullying is about power and empowering the bystanders to act together changes the power paradigm and renders them helpless. It also provides immediate witnesses to what went on. It also takes students who will self advocate.
  4. Lily
    I think you are a genius! I believe you are right, if more kids stood together against bullies, it might help stop it. However, you are also exactly correct in encouraging kids to talk to adults. The combination of those two ideas is great. I admire you for speaking out on this difficult issue and I am very sorry for your past experiences.

    Keep writing and sharing your great thoughts with the world!!
  5. Terry from Iowa
    Sorry, Lily, the past comment was from me!
  6. JoAnnJ
    Lily,
    Such good advice, please keep on trying to do your best to help not only yourself but your friends. You are so right, bullies look for one person, not many.
  7. Lyn Hilt
    Lily, I am glad you discussed the idea of making sure you tell an adult if you see bullying happening. Sometimes it’s hard for us (adults) to know if there is bullying going on, because no one tells us about it! Acting as a reporter is going to help create a safe learning environment for everyone! Another important idea is supporting the victim. You are demonstrating leadership and friendship qualities by doing so. You’re a great role model for your peers!
  8. Chris from Michigan
    Lily, I am sorry you have to endure bullying. It sounds as if you have thought about this problem and have come up with some ideas to stop it. There are probably other kids who have also been bullied, and your ideas to stop the bullying could help them too. I hope you can share those ideas with them.

    Good luck.
  9. Sharon Elin
    Hey, Lily, you should definitely report bullying to teachers/parents/adults and not remain quiet about it, but also, next time you witness bullying or experience it yourself, step back and look at the bully with pity.

    This isn’t an excusing type of pity, but just a flipped perspective to help you rise above the bully emotionally. Pity the bully because he or she is terribly insecure and personally empty but they don’t know it — they can only feel powerful by making others feel inferior, which means they are weak!

    YOU, on the other hand, are strong because you can respect other people and don’t need to put them down or show off with false superiority.

    …The trick is that you just have to know this fact inside yourself. You will rarely — if ever — succeed in making bullies understand this, so just ignore them and pity them from a distance.
  10. Peter
    Lily, a well written and interesting piece about bullying. I also was bullied at school as a child. It took a very tough guy to push the bully against a wall, he did not hurt him, and tell him to stop bullying or he would have to deal with him in the future. The bullying stopped immediately. After my enduring it for 4 years!!
  11. Natalie from the lone star state
    You make and excellent point you should always stand up for yourself and should talk to an adult.I’m sorry that you have had experiences with this sort of thing. I think if you are being bullied you should have a couple of your friends stick up for you to because I don’t think you should have to face this bully on your own.
  12. Ryan
    I hate bullies. Bullies only bully people because they are miserable. I think schools can’t solve bullying problems because they don’t know how to start, only you can.
  13. Christina from California
    Lily,
    You are such an inspiration! I wish more kids thought like you do. When I was young I would get bullied because I was always the tallest in my class. I never had the courage to stand up for myself, but looking back I really wish I had. You’re an extremely smart girl and I hope you keep helping other kids who are victims of bullying!
  14. Kyna
    I think that you are giving very good advice for people that are being bullied. You also make a good point of more people bully when they are not supposed to. I am sorry to hear that you have been bullied. Nice post.

    -An 11th grader from Alameda, California
  15. Dianna From California
    I think that you are very right, and I am very happy to see that someone young even understands that this is not right. What is sad is that a young person has enough courage to speak there voice but most adults are afraid and teens also.
  16. Eunice R
    Hi Lily, if you are getting bullied you should definitely report this to your teacher or parents. They will probably make things better with you and your bullier. I think your advice is a good way to encourage kids to face your bully and to not be afraid to tell the teachers about your situation.
    – Freshmen from EHS
  17. Kim
    I agree with you, Lily. Nobody wants to be bullied. If you want a happy life, you must stop bullying. You cannot live happily when your neighbors are unhappy. You should not hurt them either in mind, or in person, or in property. I have faced this problems several times and I understand how you feel. Speaking to the adults would be a great way to help you solve the problem!

    - a student in Encinal High School, CA.
  18. Ronnie, frrom California
    I think you make a wonderful point. Always stand up for yourself even if the person is bigger than you. Always be sure to tell an adult. You never want this to keep going on. Just remember, bullies are just punks and pick on people because they think they are better than you are. Be sure to tell someone that you are getting bullied because if this keeps going on, it’ll just get worse. Stay positive!
  19. Emma
    I’m sorry that people have ever bullied you. This one girl used to make fun of me every day and it took a lot of time for me to get my confidence back. I don’t know why she did that but it was cruel. People need to try to help the victims but that’s really hard to do…
  20. Julienne
    You are so right, Lily. I really think that you are a very brave girl and I salute you. I hate seeing kids getting bullied because I don’t get why are they doing such a thing. My class and I made a poster about Cyber-bullying. Cyber-bullying is when someone is being bullied through internet, cellphone, or in person. So our teacher is going to post them on the internet, school hallways, and everywhere. I hope those mean bullies read the posters we made so they can back off and just be nice to everybody. I really like this blog, Lily.

    TWO THUMBS UP!
  21. Jess Vicman
    Yeah, bullying is not cool at all. I remember back in grade school when I was teased because I had a funny last name. What made it worse was that it was my friends that were bullying me, not some mean students. I, nor my friends, knew why they were bullying me. They just thought it was fun. Usually I just walked away and started playing by myself but one day I just started to break down and cry. They saw that it really hurt me and I told them to stop it and they felt really bad and apologized. Kids back then might have been more sympathetic than those of today. I totally agree that bullying has to stop and I’m glad you wrote this blog. You know, it only takes one spark to start a fire. I hope that this encourages your school to step up their game to stop bullying. Good luck and know that you have support!

    9th Grader from Alameda, CA
  22. Joan
    Lily, you make such a great point! If the bully notices that others are helping the victim out, they will stop because bullies usually just pick on one person. Always remember to be strong and make smart choices when dealing with a bully.

    11th grader from Alameda, Ca
  23. Hieu Phan
    Lily, you have an excellent point in that bullying should be stopped and that the school should also help out. I also believe that if you see someone being bullied by another you SHOULD stop and help them out. I really know how you feel because I have also been bullied for some time in my elementary school years. I know what it feel like to be bullied and stopping it to help others is a great deal. Stand up for what you believe in and you will succeed in stopping kids from being bullied.

    An 11th Grader from Alameda, CA
  24. Erin
    You also have to stop and ask yourself “what is going on in the persons life that makes them want to act this way?” Nobody likes just being mean, there is almost always a reason why someone acts out in bad ways. I’ve had bad experiences with bullying too but as it turns out the persons home life was not ideal, and i can understand what they did; that doesn’t mean I will forgive them, but I can understand why they would act like that.
  25. Giordano
    Hello Lilly.
    I think your advice can help a lot of other kids. The bully have fun only when the victim suffers. If you don’t show him your suffering, he will probably stop it.-
  26. Vicki
    Hi Lily, I agree with you that bullies are actually encouraged to bully more when people tell them to stop. I think that your advice on bullies is really good and that people should tell the teachers or some adult figure when they’re being bullied. Like Sharon mentioned some bullies bully because they feel insecure or the fact that they don’t have friends so they bully people to make themselves feel better. I think that it’s a good thing that you’re speaking out and telling people about this. =) Continue writing!
  27. Janna
    Lily, I’m so sorry that you have to suffer through this, especially at a young age. There are a few solutions that will help you survive being picked on, such as always having someone there to keep you sane, or to get help from a trusted adult. Also, confront your bully. Ask them why they bully, looking them straight into their eyes, because the eyes are like a window into a person’s thoughts. Maybe you’ll understand why they do what they do. Don’t be afraid, but don’t offend them either. Tell them that it’s not nice and that you’re sure they wouldn’t like it if that happened to them.
    There are several circumstances where the bullies aren’t really trying to bully you. They just probably think what you do or like is just a bit unusual, and they’ll make rude comments because they don’t understand.
    Stay strong, Lily and good luck.
  28. J. Payopay
    I think that you make a very good point, but I think the best thing to do is when a person gets bullied, they should tell an adult that they are being bullied so the problem stops right away.

    A 9th grade Alameda student.
  29. Sanda
    You don’t deserve to be bullied and nobody else does either. You are brave to write about it. I believe you are right, anybody that is being bullied and knows anyone who is being bullied need to notify a responsible adult. Everyone needs to be treated equally so don’t put anyone down because it can be the other way around.


    Sanda _12th grade student in Alameda, CA
  30. abel
    Lily, I am sorry you have to endure bullying.keep on trying to do your best to help not only yourself but your friends. You are so right, bullies look for one person, not many.
  31. James B
    You have done a great job addressing this perpetual issue in modern society, as all things you said are true. It is best to use adult authority to combat harassment and insurrection caused by bullies, but keeping strong with your friends also shows to the bully that you are above them- that you don’t need to be violent or hurtful to feel good. It can be difficult at times, so keep strong and carry on so that you won’t be affected as hard as bullies do, but what also helps is to be able to see good in the bully; if they feel compelled to change for the good then it is welcome. Everybody who has bullied me in the past are now close friends, showing that change is very important.

    James B- an 11th grader from Alameda, California
  32. Naomi
    Lily bullying is a horible thing. I really don’t get why people bully. Is it because they are sad or mad? Could you find out?






    Naomi
  33. Naomi
    I believe that if we stand together we can stop bullies and bullying once and for all.
  34. Aunt Weezie
    Hi Lily,
    You started an excellent discussion.

    Naomi asked if bullies do what they do because they are sad or mad. They are both. It’s usually more about them than the person they are bothering. Bullies don’t care who they bully. They just have this need to do it. The bully is usually a sad/mad person who just wants to lash out and feel better. They don’t feel good about themselves so they don’t want others to feel good.

    It’s sad. But that doesn’t excuse it. Everyone is responsible for stopping it. They best advice is what you said – if you see someone being picked on – step up. And do it every time you see it. A bully doesn’t want to confront a group.
  35. Lily
    @Naomi-
    It can be that people bully because they are sad or mad. The can really have any feeling and still bully. You brining up a good point.
    ~Lily
  36. Mariana
    @lily if you were bullied I would stop the person I know you’ll do the same. !!!!!!!!!
  37. kayla
    hello
  38. jack
    i think the people who bullie in middle school get bullied in hight school
  39. Lauren P.
    Lily thats a ton of comments keep up the great work!!!!!!!!
  40. Victoria
    Its never good to be bullied. I know how that feels.
  41. Mariana
    LILY I hope you forgive me because I know I been alittle rude
  42. Lily
    @Janna-
    Thanks for the advice. I really appreciated it.
    ~Lily

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